We’re halfway through our adventure through Central America, we still haven’t killed each other, I’ve discovered that there are certain realities that come with traveling with your significant other.
Here are ten realities I’ve discovered while traveling with Eli.
- Privacy does not exist. You will hear, see, and smell things that you wish you could erase from your memory. When it’s just the two of you, you are doctor and counselor. There was a time when Eli and I didn’t discuss our bathroom activites, but after traveling for two months all bets are off. One can only imgine the situation when one of us has a stomach bug and there is no door to the bathroom, which is located right next to the bed. Close quaters, tropical illnesses, and a constant diet of rice and beans has quickly gotten us over the taboo of discussing bodily functions.
- Always together, never apart. You guys will be together pretty much 24/7 so hopefully you really like eachother’s company.
- Sharing is caring. Remember in preschool when you learned all about sharing? Traveling with your partner is where you apply your epic sharing skills. Everything can and will be shared whether it’s a money, a meal or shoving stuff in each other’s backpack. Though it may be difficult splitting an ice cream at first sooner or later you’ll be sharing a toothbrush without a second thought.
- There will be fights. To all those couples who say they never fight either you’re lying or this is where it will happen. As said above you’re spending time together 24/7, a lot is bound to get on your nerves. Whether it’s over big things like money or little things like them just looking at you, it’s going to happen. Some days will be amazing and others will be full of bickering and arguements over silly things like who gets the last sip of the smoothie (Eli and I).
- They’re a good distraction from homesickness. It’s hard to be homesick when your favorite person from home is with you.
- You’ll grow closer. With the awkwardness of bodily functions out of the way and being together almost every waking moment you’ll learn all sort of new, interesting things about each other. You’ll tell long forgotten childhood stories on 8 hour bus rides, learn an exotic dance in a far off country, or take a Nicaraguan cooking class. Not only will you grow as a person but as a couple you will grow and blossom.
- It’s important to treat yo’self. Eli and I are all about traveling on a budget. We stay in dorms, research for tours with the best money value, and look for the cheapest resturants. Though saving money is a priority it’s important to remember to treat yourself and your honey. Book a private room, have a nice dinner, splurge on that three day sailing trip. Sometimes we get so caught up in the money aspect we forget about the memories. You can easily make more money but can’t make up for the missed memories.
- Communication is key. There is no time or place for mind games when traveling with your significant other. I know it’s cliché but honesty is the best policy. If your mad be mad but don’t just push it under the rug when asked about it, I’m guilty of this. Share your happiness, your hopes, and fears. Tell them about your ideas and plans for your trip. If you would rather go to Belize than Guatemala tell them! If you are feeling overwhelmed and stressed out at a border crossing and can’t handle it let your partner know. Traveling is way more enjoyable with open and honest communication.
- You can still do you. Though you’re together all the time and share a lot you can always have “you” time, even if you aren’t physically alone. I love “me” time. When the weather and safety of the city allows I go for walks, go to the beach or to the café alone. When it doesn’t I read books, write in my journal, and watch movies.
- It’s you two against the world. You’re eachother’s confidant, enthusiast, voice of reason, and defendent. It’s just you, your honey and the open road.
What have you discovered while traveling with a significant other?
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